@Peti
Ich habe gute Beichtspiegel. Soooo detailliert geht keiner auf die ganze Thematik ein...
Aus dem Buch "Good News about Sex & Marriage" von Christopher West mit Nihil Obstat und Imprimatur des Erzbischofs von Denver, April 2004:
4. Someone told me the Church teaches that oral sex is wrong even for married couples. Is that true?
It seems there are many troubled consciences out there looking for sound guidance on this issue. I'd even guess that the first thing many readers did when they got this book was to look up this question. (If you're one of them, be sure to read the rest of the book to understand better the context of this answer.)
So, what does the Church teach? You're not going to find an official Magisterial statement addressing this issue directly. But the principles we've already outlined in this book enable us to draw sound conclusions.
There's nothing in the Church's vision of the body and sexual love that singles out the genitals as being objectively "unkissable" as part of a husband and wife's intimate foreplay to intercourse. The term "oral sex", however, most often refers to acts in which orgasm is sought and achieved apart from an act of intercourse. Indeed, many couples consider such behavior a desirable alternative to normal intercourse. And, yes, this is wrong, even for married couples - though the clarification made above regarding female orgasm is applicable here as well: Mutual climax (or at least climax during penetration) remains the ideal to strive for, but it's not inherently wrong if the wife climaxes as a result of oral stimulation, so long as it's within the context of a completed act of intercourse.
Oral copulation (that is, to the point of ejaculation) is simply not marital. It effects no communion of persons between the spouses. It's the consummation of nothing. It involves a severance of the pleasure of orgasm from the responsibility of fertility. It fosters a husband's tendency to objectify his wife. For these reasons, it does not and cannot symbolize and participate in the free, total, faithful, and fruitful love of God. It does not and cannot symbolize the marriage bond or renew a couple's vows.
Furthermore, while there's nothing wrong per se with oral-genital contact as foreplay to intercourse, such expressions require the greatest degree of purity and reverence so as never to degrade the goodness of marital intimacy. This kind of purity is possible, but it's also quite easy (especially for men, I'd say) to cross the line between love and lust, between intimately affirming the goodness of each other's bodies (and receiving that affirmation) and merely seeking to gratify base desire at each other's expense. As the saying goes, "from the sublime to the ridiculous is but a step". Spouses must always be sensitive to how easily they could take that step if they are to avoid it.
It should go without mentioning that a spouse who is uncomfortable with such behavior should never be pressured into performing it. (Again, for whatever reason, it's usually husbands who exert pressure upon their wives.) Pressure exerted on a spouse to perform acts with which he or she is uncomfortable - even if they're not objectively wrong - indicates lack of respect for that spouse. It's a clear indication of having long since crossed the line between genuine love and self-seeking.
Ich hab das ganze Kapital eingestellt, auch wenn das jetzt nicht nötig gewesen wäre (das nächste Kapitel behandelt übrigens konkludent A...verkehr... und fängt nochmals mit dem Satz an:
"Again, a husband should never intentionally ejaculate anywhere but in his wife's vagina.").
Also, die Frau darf auch außerhalb des GV einen Höhepunkt haben (wobei, glaub ich, selbst da die Meinungen auseinandergehen), der Mann aber definitiv nicht.
Ich hab mir das nicht ausgedacht. Robert und Linus hatten es in dem anderen Thread ja auch am Rande erwähnt.
Der männliche Höhepunkt darf nur innerhalb der Vagina erfolgen. Alles andere ist kirchlich unerlaubt.
Ich bin nun mal neugierig genug, dass ich diese Antworten seinerzeit so explizit haben wollte, aber verstehen tu ich sie halt bis heute nicht...
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